POWER HOUR: GRATITUDE
The SBI Format
Indian Style Mein Samjho! 🇮🇳
Generic “Good Job” bolna band karo. Science-based appreciation seekho jo logon ka dil jeet le.
The 3:14 PM Rule (Pi Time) 🥧
Mathematicians ka favorite number Pi (3.14). Indian context mein “Teen-Chaar baje ki Chai” time! ☕
Generic vs. Specific
Galat Tarika (Fluffy Bunny)
“Generic Praise jo nakli lagti hai.”
- “You’re awesome!” (Generic)
- “Great job!” (Vague)
- “Love you bro!” (Hallmark Card style)
- Thumbs up emoji 👍 (Lazy!)
- Inflatable balloon encouragement 🎈
Sahi Tarika (SBI Format)
“Center for Creative Leadership Proven Method”
- Specific Situation (Kab/Kahan)
- Observable Behavior (Camera proof)
- Personal Impact (Feeling)
- Cannot be denied (Factual)
- Genuine connection
The Psychology (Dimaag Ka Khel) 🧠
Why Generic Praise Fails
Jab aap kisi ko bolte ho “You are amazing!”, aur wo banda khud ko bura samajhta hai (Imposter Syndrome), toh uska dimaag reject kar deta hai.
Why SBI Works
Jab aap Specific Situation aur Observable Behavior batate ho, toh ye Facts ban jate hain. Koi facts ko deny nahi kar sakta.
The SBI Formula
Situation
Kab aur Kahan?
“Last week meeting mein…”
Behavior
Kya Kiya? (Observable)
“Tumne data add kiya…”
Impact
Mujh pe kya asar hua?
“Main confident feel kiya…”
Real Life SBI Examples 🇮🇳
🏢 Office: Colleague Priya
“Arrey Priya, badhiya presentation thi!”
S: “Priya, kal jab hum Indiranagar office mein client meeting mein the,”
B: “aur tumne notice kiya ki client South Indian hai, toh presentation mein last minute Chennai aur Bangalore ka data add kar diya aur unke local festivals ka reference bhi diya,”
I: “main bohot confident feel kar raha tha aur client ke saath instant connect ban gaya. Isliye deal close hui – shukriya!”
🏠 Family: Beta Rohan
“Beta Rohan, tu bohot accha hai!”
S: “Rohan, kal jab Diwali ki safai chal rahi thi,”
B: “aur tumne bina kisi ke bole apne books shelf ko arrange kiya, purani notebooks alag karke rakh di recycle ke liye, aur apne cricket kit ko bhi properly store kar diya,”
I: “mujhe bohot garv feel hua. Tumhari zimmewari dekh kar lag raha hai tu sach mein bada ho raha hai! Shabash beta!”
❤️ Spouse: Thank You
“Thanks for everything, love you!”
S: “Kal raat jab main office se late aaya aur bohot thaka hua tha,”
B: “tumne dekha ki maine dinner nahi kiya aur without complaining, tumne garam khana plate mein lagaya, aur TV pe meri favorite show bhi on kar di,”
I: “main feel kiya ki ghar sach mein ghar hai, aur tum ho toh sab tension gayab ho jaati hai. Bohot lucky hoon main.”
👵 Parent: Maa
“Maa, tu best hai!”
S: “Maa, last week jab meri job interview thi aur main bohot nervous tha,”
B: “tu subah 5 baje uthi, mere liye special Poha aur Chai banaya, shirt press ki aur gate tak aake hug karke boli ‘tension mat le’,”
I: “interview mein jitna confidence tha, wo sirf tumhari wajah se tha. Jab offer letter aaya, pehla thought yahi tha ki Maa ko batana hai.”
🤝 Friend: Breakup Crisis
“Yaar tu awesome hai, best friend!”
S: “Bhai, last month jab mera breakup hua aur main 2 baje raat ko randomly call kar diya,”
B: “tu bina kuch bole bike pe chadh ke mere ghar aa gaya, koi lecture nahi diya, bas suna, aur Maggi bana ke khilai,”
I: “us raat ko feel hua ki saccha dost matlab kya hota hai. Tu nahi hota toh shayad main us dark phase se jaldi nahi nikalta.”
💻 Colleague: Amit
“Thanks for the help!”
S: “Amit, last Friday jab 5 baje deadline thi aur mera laptop crash ho gaya,”
B: “tumne apna important meeting postpone kar diya aur debugging mein bhi help ki even though wo tumhara kaam nahi tha,”
I: “project on-time submit hua aur boss bhi impressed the. Tumhari wajah se meri job bach gayi yaar! Next coffee on me!”
Epics Se Seekho 📜
Krishna → Arjuna
“Arjuna, jab Kurukshetra ke battlefield pe tu vishad (confusion) mein tha (S), tune apne dil ki baat mujhse openly share ki aur guidance maangi bina ego ke (B), mujhe bohot khushi hui ki tu mujhe apna sakha aur guru maan ke trust karta hai. Isi humility ki wajah se main tujhe Gita ka gyaan de paya (I).”
Ram → Hanuman
“Hanuman, jab Sita Mata ko dhoondhna tha aur samundar paar karna mushkil lag raha tha (S), tune ek hi chhalaang mein Lanka pahunch ke dikhaya (B), teri devotion aur courage dekh ke mera bharosa aur bhi strong ho gaya ki hum Ravana ko hara sakte hain. Tu mera sabse vishwasneey sevak hai (I)!”
Common Mistakes (Galtiyan) ⚠️
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1.Character Attribution:
“You’re a good person” mat bolo. Action describe karo.
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2.Vague Compliments:
“You did great” – Kya great? Kab? Specific bano.
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3.Copy-Paste Messages:
Sabko same forward mat bhejo. Personalized likho.
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4.Too Long/Complex:
Essay mat likho. 2-3 sentences kaafi hain.
Power of Ongoing Regard 💪
Sirf Birthday ya Anniversary pe nahi, regular basis pe appreciate karo.
Jaise Tata Group ki culture – employees ko regularly value karte hain, sirf annual review mein nahi.
Daily Practice Routine 📆
| Day | Time | Target | Example |
|---|---|---|---|
| Monday | 3:14 PM | Papa | “Sunday ko bike repair…” |
| Tuesday | 3:14 PM | Classmate | “Workout post pe comment…” |
| Wednesday | 3:14 PM | Best Friend | “Trek pe help ki…” |
| Thursday | 3:14 PM | Course Peer | “HRV insights…” |
| Friday | 3:14 PM | Spouse | “Kal ka dinner…” |
Abhi Phone Uthao! 📱
“Kritagyata se hi khushi milti hai.” (Gratitude leads to happiness).
Jaise Ganga flowing water hai, waise gratitude bhi ongoing honi chahiye.
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